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Are you the adult child of an aging senior?
Are your parents still in the family home? Is it time to downsize them?
Are you a senior wanting to downsize?
Seniors are our largest growing demographic. You may be one of them or you may have parents that fit into that category.
My mom is 79. Fortunately she is still able to live in the family home however that does not mean that is the best idea. Some experts have the theory that it is better to downsize while you can still make all of the major decisions and your health is still really good. I would have to agree.
All too often I work with clients who are not capable of downsizing. Their grown children are so busy with their own lives that they are not able to help either.
Check out this short video on downsizing seniors. Plus Getting it Together’s game plan.
1. Have a family meeting to decide when a good time to start downsizing is. My Aunt did this and came up with the age in which she felt was appropriate to move into something smaller. She has given herself a couple of years in which to plan for and execute the move. In the meantime when her grown children are over they work on a certain area of the house. For example, they did cookbooks the other day. This was a funny one because my cousin asked my Aunt which cookbooks she was still using to which my Aunt replied “none, I do not cook anymore”. Lol
Ok so that was easy. All the cookbooks went to the second hand book store.
Next in line were the volumes of encyclopedias. The money people have spent on encyclopedias to realize that now a day’s Google does it all for us. Off to the used book store they went.
2. Decide who will help you or your aging parents with downsizing. Chances are your grown kids have a young family of their own. Their time may be very limited. Is it best to hire a professional organizer to help with the downsizing?
3. Where do you want your items to go? This is always a tricky question. I know of people that again have a family meeting. They get each person to put their name on the back of any items they would like once the downsizing starts and/or when the aging parents pass away. Are there collections that need to be sold? Are there family heirlooms that need to be preserved? Are there other household items that need to be donated or tossed? This is where I come in. I will sell, donate, or toss items for my clients. I think if people know their items are going to a good place they are more likely to part with them.
What items will be needed in the new smaller living space? This might be a tougher question to answer until you see the new smaller living space. Once you do, you will be able to decide what stays and what goes.
4. When should you start downsizing? TODAY! If you have allowed yourself enough time you can break this downsizing project down into bite size pieces. Try not to leave this project to the last minute. Change is hard on most people. Downsizing is one of the biggest changes a person might do in their life. Embrace it.
Would you like a FREE session over the phone? Contact me today to get yours. We can discuss your downsizing situation and come up with some solutions in order for you to move forward right away.
Have you had any experience with downsizing a parent or have you yourself recently downsized? If so please leave some helpful comments in the box below.
How often do you stand in the kitchen and eat your meals?
How often do you miss a meal? “I’m too busy to eat.”
How often do you get indigestion?
This is all crazy making. The fact that we are too busy, too rushed or maybe to disorganized to eat properly is crazy. Eating is one of the most important things we can do for our bodies next to proper sleep and shelter. Yes it takes time, planning and preparation in order to be prepared for meal time. These ideas take just a little time and a little organization. Your body is worth it. Isn’t it?
Check out this short video on how to slow down and savor your food.
Next time you are getting ready for a meal please try these top Getting it Together’s 5 tips.
Tip#1 Stop. For just a moment and really appreciate what is on your plate. Be grateful for what you are about to eat. (Hopefully it is something really healthy and yummy.)
Tip#2 Breathe. Take a moment and really examine your breath. Are you breathing short shallow breaths or are they long deep ones. If they are short, take a minute and do 3-5 really deep breaths. This will help you to slow down and enjoy your meal.
Tip#3 Chew. Chewing slowly encourages proper digestion. Chewing slowly allows you to really savour the flavours of the food you are eating. If you are a dinner guest chewing slowly shows your host or hostess that you are appreciating the tastes and effort it took them to make the meal.
Tip#4 Sit. Even if you are dinning alone sitting at the table is so very important.
You are important so set a place for yourself. No more eating in the car, eating on the run, eating standing up or worse yet eating in front of the TV. The experts say that sitting down to meals increases your chances of losing weight. (If indeed you need/want to lose weight.)
Tip#5 Set the stage. Get yourself a nice placemat, light the candles, turn on some nice music. Turn OFF the TV. And above all please do not answer the phone unless you are expecting an emergency call.
So often I will call a home and the person claims on the other end of the phone that they are right in the middle of dinner. I have never understood why people answer their phones when they cannot talk. (That is a whole different article). I was in a home the other day and they have a big sign on the fridge: “No phones one hour prior to dinner or during.” What I love about this message is that it was written by the young daughter. Do you think she might have been frustrated by the lack of communication at her family dinner table?
Whether you are dinning with yourself or your whole family these tips are a great way to slow down, connect, savour and enjoy your food and meals.
Give these TIPS a try and let me know some of your most favourite dinning experiences.
Organizing family photos does not have to be an arduous task as long as you ask yourself these key questions.
What is your ultimate goal with organizing family photos?
Who would like to inherit all your family photos?
Would you like a family photo album for each family member or just one communal album?
Have you asked your family members if they would like a family photo album or is this something that you think they would like?
Do you make a hard copy or do you put each family member’s photos on a disk?
Do you organize your album by event or chronological?
Please ask yourself these questions and get clear on your outcome before starting the project.
The reason why I am getting you to really analyze these questions is because putting together family photo albums can be tricky. The upside is it can also be loads of fun and very rewarding.
I am going to assume you want to put together a family photo album for each family member. I’ll also assume that your pictures are in hard copy format not digital.
Check out this short video on Organizing Family Photos:
Use these top 5 Getting It Together tips to move forward with organizing family photos.
Let’s say you have 2 children. One we will call Tim and the other Sue.
Tip#1: Take a big white envelope and label it TIM. Take another big white envelope and label it SUE.
Tip#2: Take one small pile, small box or one old photo album. Divide the pictures between each big white envelope. Do not worry about anything else at this point. Just the sorting and dividing of prints between the 2 envelopes. If both children are in one picture you could scan it and put the photo in each envelope.
Tip#3: Take each envelope and do a ruthless purge. Toss any photos that are out of focus. Toss any where the eyes are closed or beat red. Toss any photos in which you have no memory of taking it, do not know where it was taken and or do not know who else is in the photos.
Tip#4: Next take your envelope of pictures and sort them by date or by events. For example you could put all birthday pictures together. Then all Christmas pictures together, etc. I find this to be far more effective than trying to do an album by date.
Tip#5: Put together the album. You may choose to write a little story on each page.
Once you have completed the 2 albums watch with delight as your grown children open them and devour the pages. I am sure they will be thrilled.
Still feeling a little overwhelmed by all the photos in your home. Call me for a FREE 30 minute phone consultation. We can discuss your personal needs. I’ll give you some tips and encouragement to help you move forward with this project.
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